Let’s start
with a situation where someone has failed to fulfill your expectations and broken
your trust, in a personal or professional setup.
How many chances are you willing to give to this person?
Scientifically,
something that has been proven 3 times, is considered a fact. Being an engineer, I have
performed experiments three times, to certain the results. So, my
brain allows 3 chances.
Matters
involving emotions are quite different though. While the concept of 2nd
chance is so common and easily quoted, will you be able to trust the person again?
Even one failed chance puts you in a zone where forgetting things and trusting the person, allowing a 2nd chance becomes extremely difficult.
Implying only
one chance shapes most of our relationships and emotional ties.
Though I have
also seen quite a few of my friends, giving unlimited chances to people they love.
As a third person, I see them being taken for granted and heading towards more
pain. I feel that they have been taken for granted and might never be valued
by the other person.
Now let’s take a case that you are the person who, for whatever reasons, made a mistake and broke someone’s trust. You will desperately want a 2nd chance. I would too, to make things right. Getting a 2nd chance in this case seems just right doesn’t it?
My logical
brain and emotional being has come to a compromise. I have capped things to 2nd
chance.
For me, the
2nd chance is the deal shaper/breaker.Yes that means i will not hesitate to point out to a person that i am disappointed at the 1st go and will walk away on a failed 2nd chance.
