Sunday, January 10, 2016

Rising from the ashes ...



Best way to tackle a problem is facing it head-on.
Easier said than done! 
We all have our share of hardships and to us, our own trouble seems the worst.

I am, in general a very optimistic person.
The jovial social kinds, the one you will always see smiling.
There was however this time, roughly for a year where I went through a bad phase, a personal problem became so heavy on me that it changed my way of living.


I tried my best to face the situation, all efforts put trying to resolve it but no matter what I did I failed.
The sadness gradually caught hold of me, growing like fungus, expanding its impact.
Finding comfort in solitude.
Nothing that earlier seemed pleasing meant anything now.
Negative thoughts dominated life. Lost in my own ...in a deserted zone.

Did the problem solve with this change?
No, another set of problems emerged - confidence dropping low, no interest in job/work, no fun in family/friends’ outings.

Then one day someone shared news of an extended family member’s loss.That triggered a thought -this person who had passed away, had his share of problems maybe much bigger than mine but just like that with a tick of a clock, his life along with his problems ended.
I tried to imagine I was him, was the problem bigger or living itself?
The more I thought, the more I realized I was on the wrong track.

I decided to take a leap. Like an experiment, I did something I never thought I would.
This experiment changed my routine/surroundings and gradually my focus shifted from my problem to my desires, to my dreams, to my liking, to my life...

I am now back to being me, the ME I longed to BE

I haven't yet found the solution to the problem I had but it doesn't hold me back. I don't even see it as a problem anymore.

Whether you have tackled your problems or not, don't make it bigger than you.
None of us is blessed to be deprived of sorrows.
When you see a 'happy person' trust in the fact that this person is - 
a Phoenix rising back from the ashes!


9 comments:

Neha Jha said...

Looking back at what you have achieved in trying to resolve the problem you have will make you wiser.. take it from an experienced person.. :)

You write good. Should write more..
Love ya

Anonymous said...

Lovely thoughts Shilpa .... It takes guts to do the little experiments girl ... a leap of faith .... and a certain amount of dare devil attitude ... and you have it all ...

Sunil Sharma said...

Good one, for sure very well written.

Unknown said...

Very nice thought shilpa... Actually we never discover our strength but always focus on our weakness. But one should be like you !!! ��

Unknown said...

Only if we take risks in life there is a chance of success or failure. I admire your courage Shilpa and happy to see the original Shilpa back with much stronger and rounded personality !! If you think positive you will always see good things coming on your way. Wish you all the best !!!

Unknown said...

You can't be anyone else other than YOU!! And that's the best part of you. Wish each one of us understood this.. Life is a miracle to be lived every moment not wasted on countless hurdles we face. Keep inspiring.. keep living high nd happy ����

Unknown said...

Very nicely written Di.

Focusing on desires, to my dreams, to my liking, to my life...

A lot of us have similar problems and your article will surely inspire everyone to experiment with life like you did..

Bhuvan the one and only said...

You write well. you should write often.

Rupa Ila said...

Thoughts well articulated. Words pour exact amount of emotions. Every line is inspiration for life lesson. Love it.