It took my little niece fraction of a second to answer my question: "What is your friend's name?". She did not have to think much to take the names of few of her classmates. More than my question, her quick answer got me thinking—do we all realize the value and feel the worth of this no-string-attached-yet-powerful-relation called “friendship”?
I cannot recall at what age I first realized that this is the one main relationship we earn in life, all others being blood relationships (by birth) or destined (related to partner, as we particularly believe in India). It is indeed true that we make many friends, almost at every stage of our life. Triggers for this bond of friendship could be a common interest, similar thoughts and various other things. Sometimes this bond is very casual and need-based—something like a social requirement, something that helps us fight boredom. However, there are some bonds which grow into something special and nurture into very beautiful relationships for life. It is these attachments that amaze me the most and I treat them as real "friendship". This friendship is unconditional; it isn’t need-based and most importantly, it is forever!
Feeling the pain of another person even though this person is not part of your family (extended or acquired) seems like the most unselfish feeling. People who feel so for someone or have someone who feels like that for them are very lucky.
While a true friendship is very special, in today’s fast-paced world, the bond sometimes turns out to be fragile, easy to neglect and caught in ego/misunderstandings. In our chase of life—running behind money, fame, family, fun etc. we tend to miss out on that person whose shoulder we last cried on, that person who celebrated our happiness like his/her own, that person who danced on our wedding, that person who advised us when we most needed it... if reading these lines gives a name to "that person", break the ice and reach out to your friend RIGHT AWAY!
The new-age disease called depression/stress is growing like plague especially in middle-aged people. By means of this illness which primarily stems from our own insecurities in this urban rat race, where we run after money and materialistic happiness all the time, we are giving way to multiple money making institutions which make use of our emotional weakness. The best cure to it might be an answer to the same simple question I asked my niece: "What is your friend's name?". You surely will have one that rings a bell. The number doesn’t matter. It’s the feeling that matters. It’s the bond that matters .Such is the power of this person called friend.
I cannot recall at what age I first realized that this is the one main relationship we earn in life, all others being blood relationships (by birth) or destined (related to partner, as we particularly believe in India). It is indeed true that we make many friends, almost at every stage of our life. Triggers for this bond of friendship could be a common interest, similar thoughts and various other things. Sometimes this bond is very casual and need-based—something like a social requirement, something that helps us fight boredom. However, there are some bonds which grow into something special and nurture into very beautiful relationships for life. It is these attachments that amaze me the most and I treat them as real "friendship". This friendship is unconditional; it isn’t need-based and most importantly, it is forever!
Feeling the pain of another person even though this person is not part of your family (extended or acquired) seems like the most unselfish feeling. People who feel so for someone or have someone who feels like that for them are very lucky.
While a true friendship is very special, in today’s fast-paced world, the bond sometimes turns out to be fragile, easy to neglect and caught in ego/misunderstandings. In our chase of life—running behind money, fame, family, fun etc. we tend to miss out on that person whose shoulder we last cried on, that person who celebrated our happiness like his/her own, that person who danced on our wedding, that person who advised us when we most needed it... if reading these lines gives a name to "that person", break the ice and reach out to your friend RIGHT AWAY!
The new-age disease called depression/stress is growing like plague especially in middle-aged people. By means of this illness which primarily stems from our own insecurities in this urban rat race, where we run after money and materialistic happiness all the time, we are giving way to multiple money making institutions which make use of our emotional weakness. The best cure to it might be an answer to the same simple question I asked my niece: "What is your friend's name?". You surely will have one that rings a bell. The number doesn’t matter. It’s the feeling that matters. It’s the bond that matters .Such is the power of this person called friend.
8 comments:
I get reminded of our Sis!
yayieee !! :)
Agree with all your points.. Except one.. Only a mother's love is selfless.. Even if a person is completely devoted to another person, he/she at least expects to be treated nicely... If not appreciation, at least acknowledgement of one's devotion. The so-called pure bond dies when the devotee is mistreated. So, there's nothing called a selfless friendship.
Touches the core of friendship.. best earned relationship
Lovely Vanya.. Reminds me of Rutchee everytime I read this :)
:)
I can't deny Mom's love is above all,I love mine beyond words.However appreciating one relation does not and should not reduce the value of another.A "real" friend is a part of your life,this bond needs to be valued as well,devotion shows in action,if it's not heart felt by both - i agree the meaning is lost.
Beautiful thought Shilpa. Haven't met you in person ever but I can feel the warmth and softness of your heart. Made me actually reach out to an old friends from school. Wish you have the longest genuine list as an answer to the question. Secretly hope I feature somewhere in the list.
Mademoiselle, aimerez-vous être mon ami?
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